When You Fail

Month Three | Week Three

Challenges are a gift. Turn Obstacles into Challenges.

Obstacles can be demotivating. 


Some people seem to stay disciplined no matter what, they just seem to never give up. What’s different about these people- are they born different? Maybe. But the best of us will get discouraged when we hit an obstacle, and it will negatively affect our confidence. When our confidence is lower, our ability to solve problems, our imagination, and discipline are at their worst. Not a great position to get past these obstacles.


There is hope. Turns out there is a strategy that can be used to mitigate this damage that the most successful people often display to keep motivated.


Research shows that people who are able to view obstacles as challenges instead, as opportunities to grow and learn, experience much less damage to their motivation and confidence. They seem to just keep plowing through.


Successful people don’t plan for in case they fail, they plan for when they fail.  With the kinds of goals we are setting, goals that are outside our current capabilities, failure is inevitable. We are going to fail time and time again. Those failures are going to strengthen us, those failures are going to teach us, and form those failures we will be come resilient and smarter.


What are you going to do when you fail? How would your future self act when they fail?  When your writing about your future self this week, think about what the BIGGEST obstacles you had to overcome in 2020 and 2021 to become your future self. What did you fail at? How did you turn it into a learning experience? Who did those failures make you become?


Results at this level are still not something we can control directly. We can’t control the weight on the scale, we can’t control our income… but we focus on the things we can control (more on this next week). For now, we need a plan of action for WHEN the results don’t go our way. How can we use that to learn instead of getting discouraged?


This week you will be continuing the same routines as last week and during your future self journaling you will be starting from the 5-10 year self and working all the way down, through your longterm goals from last week into your medium term goals. Break down 1 or 2 of your 1 year goals into 6 month goals (what would signal that you are on track for your 1 year goals?), your 3 month goals, and your 1 month goals.  Keep this to 3 max.


Use 1-3 (I know I said 2 in the video) of your 1 year goals to create 3 goals for each of, 6 months, 3 months, and 1 month.


Current Routines:



  • 3 wins from the day and why they’re important to you
  • The time you will wake up tomorrow
  • One important thing you will do immediately after your Future Self Journaling (eat the frog!)
  • 1 challenge you faced or thing that didn’t go your way



  • 5-10 minutes of future self journaling (Write about your 1 year self. Who are you and what is your life like if you are on track for your 5-10 year goals!?)
  • Do your one important thing (eat the frog)

Your Assignment

1. Last weeks morning and evening routines (repeat)

2. Use your 3 medium term (1 year) goals from last week to create 3 goals for each of

  • 6 month future self
  • 3 month future self
  • 1 month future self

3. Ask yourself WHY are these goals so important? Why are they better than other goals- why are they the best way (based on your current knowledge) 

4. Ask yourself: WHO do I know that could help me make these goals easy or WHO do I need to know?

5. Ask yourself: How do these goals ensure you are on the right track for your longterm goal?



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